Why narcissists keep secrets

I felt that I was welcomed into my ex-partner’s inner circle at the beginning of the relationship — he told me things he had never told another woman, he said. What he was really doing was cherry-picking the truth to manipulate me.

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In the love-bombing phase of any toxic relationship with a narcissist, you will be made to feel special.

Not only special, but super-special, perfect, unusual, ideal, and even the best lay ever. You are so in love, and you feel the most alive you have ever felt.

Yet, at the same time, you might also feel: -

• rushed
• enclosed
• cut off.

You might become: -

• a secret keeper
• a healer
• someone who feels the emotions of someone else, for them.

Your new and exciting partner will make you feel like: -

• you are the only one who ever really understood him (his exes certainly don’t!)
• it’s you and him against the world
• life is so much better when you are together.

Welcome to the interference field of the narcissist